There are a lot of guides to cunnilingus out there on the web, but this is the best one I’ve seen – it had me reaching down into my pants to give myself a good seeing to, that’s for sure. There’s a lot more of it at http://www.minou.com/aboutsex/cunnilingus.htm, but here are the salient points:
Whenever you touch a woman's pussy, make sure your finger is wet. You can lick it or moisten it with juices from inside her. Be sure, by all means, to wet it before you touch her clit because it doesn't have any juices of its own and it's extremely sensitive. Your finger will stick to it if it's dry and that hurts.
But you don't want to touch her clit anyway. You have to work up to that. Before she becomes aroused, her clit is too delicate to be handled. Approach her pussy slowly.
Women, even more so than men, love to be teased. The inner part of her thigh is her most tender spot. Lick it, kiss it, make designs on it with the tip of your tongue. Come dangerously close to her pussy, then float away. Make her anticipate it. Now lick the crease where her leg joins her pussy. Nuzzle your face into her bush. Brush your lips over her slit without pressing down on it to further excite her. After you've done this to the point where your lady is bucking up from her seat and she's straining to get more of you closer to her, then put your lips right on top of her slit. Kiss her, gently, then harder. Now use your tongue to separate her pussy lips and when she opens up, run your tongue up and down between the layers of pussy flesh. Gently spread her legs more with your hands. Everything you do with a woman you're about to eat must be done gently. Tongue-fuck her. This feels divine. It also teases the hell out of her because by now she wants some attention given to her clit.
I can’t emphasise enough how important this is. Men very rarely do this, in my experience, and OK, although I will come without being teased in this way first, my orgasm is that much more intense if my clit has been made to wait until I’m begging for it.
Personally, I’d also suggest stroking the backs of her knees, the cleft of her buttocks, her inner thighs and her stomach with the lightest possible touch before going in with your mouth – if she’s anything like me, she’ll be shivering with pleasure at this treatment.
Gently pull the pussy lips away and flick your tongue against the clit. Do this quickly. This should cause her legs to shudder. (Oh yes!) When you sense she's getting up there toward orgasm, make your lips into an O and take the clit into your mouth. Start to suck gently and watch your lady's face for her reaction. If she can handle it, begin to suck harder. If she digs it, suck even harder. Personally, I’d find this a turn off - tongue only for me. But I’m only one woman. Others might like it or love it.
Go with her. If she lifts her pelvis into the air with the tension of her rising orgasm, move with her, don't fight her. Hang on, and keep your hot mouth on her clit. Don't let go. That's what she'll be saying too: 'Don't stop. Don't ever stop!' …
When she starts to have an orgasm, for heaven's sakes, don't let go of that clit. Hang in there for the duration. When she starts to come down from the first orgasm, press your tongue along the underside of the clit, leaving your lips covering the top. Move your tongue in and out of her pussy. If your fingers are inside, move them a little too, gently though, things are extremely sensitive just now.
Whoever wrote this really knows his (or her) stuff. Speaking from my own experience, the two things men rarely do are 1) tease me enough before going in for the kill, and 2) hang on in there while I’m heaving my cunt up and down. And believe me, there’s nothing so frustrating as being taken to the brink – but not over the edge.